why i can't get a girlfriend

32 Reasons Why You Can’t Get a Girlfriend

1 You make too few attempts

Best way to get a girlfriend is to make as many approaches as possible, until you succeed.

95% of guys who ask Google why can’t i find a girlfriend merely make too few attempts.

Here’s how it looks like:

An average guy approaches a girl and gets rejected. Then he waits for half a year to try again.

Fear of rejection may hold you back, but reiteration is literally the best way to get a girlfriend fast.

Walk up to a girl you like no matter which circumstances you may find yourself under, have a quick chat and ask for a phone number.

If you perform the above sequence of actions enough times, you’ll definitely get a date, which is the confident preerquisite for everything else.

2 You wait for The Princess aka Perfect Someone

Probably you have an unclear silhouette of a perfect girlfriend in your head. Perhaps, you even may describe her characteristics. Are you sure such a person really exists?

3 You give up too fast, after the first rejection

You ask a girl out for coffee. She says No. She says she’s busy. Then you give up.

What if I told you, she might be actually busy that evening. Why don’t you try again in a week or two?

Intersexual relationships may be tricky sometimes. No means Yes, and all that. But why don’t you make one more attempt just to make things clear?

4 You live with parents in your late 20s. You can afford living on your own, but you do not move out because you’ve chosen to stay in comfort conditions of parental home.

This is a big red flag for most women, who may consider you as an eventual boyfriend.

If you have income which covers your basic needs in food and room, think of moving out of your parents’ home as soon as possible.

Living on your own is among the best ways to get a girlfriend.

Please, be aware of 9 worst tips for moving out of your parents’ house.

5 You are a “nice guy”. And it’s not a compliment.

6 You have appearance issues you can easily solve (bad breath, dirty close, etc.)

Sometimes it’s banal negligence that makes a girl not want to consider you as a boyfriend.

7 You obsess over physical aspects of your body you can’t change (height, weight, bald head, etc.)

This is quite a widespread excuse for no girlfriend. A man finds some flaw (which may not really be a flaw) in his body and focuses on it.

The image of a handsome, finely dressed man is propagandized by companies, the only goal of which is to make you buy their products.

If you take a walk along the street you may notice that there’re all types of couples.

8 You try to be the best and the most perfect one.

People actually love imperfect ones. Read why.

9 You expect a girl to make the first move. You do not initiate social interaction.

While there are cases when a woman initiates communication with the romantic purpose, there’re too few of them to be considered as the way things actually are.

Most women still prefer a guy to approach them. These are just the rules of the game.

10 You hang out with the group of people who dominate over you, so your personality is not seen.

It may happen that people you usually hang out with tend to relate to you as someone less important. Or someone whose opinion can be easily ignored. They may assert themselves at your expense.

Such social group may be the cause why you cannot get a girlfriend. A woman sees that you occupy an inferior position among other males in your group. This fact makes you less desirable to her.

11 You avoid public places (where most social interactions take place, including social networks)

12 You dwell on your past mistakes as well as on bygone glorious victories

People have a natural tendency to ruminate over their past.

Sometimes you may remember some shameful public situation or a goofy mistake you made long ago. That’s OK. That is how we use our experience to achieve better results in the future.

However, if you focus on the negative side of your past too much, you may start catastrophizing those events and bringing in unproductive definitions as always and never.

“I always make fool of myself in public.”

“I never do anything right.”

The opposite extreme is to concentrate on your victories only. You may shape a self-image of a highly successful person who always wins, which is based on your thoughts and impression of your bygone days (not actual facts).

This will result in unrealistically high expectations, so every failure you’ll ever experience, will cause unnecessary pain.

In the case of getting a girlfirend problem, you may dwell on one regular rejection too heavily, and come up with a delusional idea, that your next attempt will end the same way.

Or, when you were in the elementary school, you were popular among the girls — usually they made the first move.

Now you project those events onto the current circumstances.

So when you do not get desired results, you get confused and unhappy, because your expectations were not met as you thought they would.

13 You complain way too much. You’re hooked on self-pity emotional junk

“I find it fascinatingly stupid for average dudes to sit around in a mediocre forum discussing how they will die virgins, and all of them will come back to such place to consume more and more of such negative energy!”

14 You are not disciplined to approach women on a regular basis

15 You are too picky

You find a flaw in every girl you meet. I’m pretty sure, you’ll find a drawback or too in The Princess you’re waiting for as well.

All people have one or another negative aatribute, you including.

16 You’re too focused on your study/job, and do not make time for the romantic affairs

Perhaps, it’s just defensive mechanism, or you really do love studying/working so much that you completely ignore other areas of your life.

17 In the beginning of an acquaintance you do not state clearly that you see the girl as a romantic partner. So you find yourself in the friend zone eventually.king of friendzone got

18 You wait for the perfect moment when you feel emotionally, financially, physically great to approach a girl (which never ever happens).

You believe that public success, fame, money will make girls longing for spending a date with you. Partly it’s true, but it’s unlikely it will get you the girl you really want.

19 You’re afraid to reveal your personality traits in public

20 You build walls instead of bridges. You avoid straight ways like simply walk up to a girl you like and say Hi.

You come up with messy  plans how to get that girl. However, you will not get any score for the original approach. You delay the results you want, and it’s just ineffective.

21 Too much of glamour inside to meet a real life girl. You’ve seen too many photoshopped pictures and watched too many polished videos and anime to be attracted to a real woman.

22 You overthink things

23 Some girls find you attractive. You miss those opportunities.

They aren’t good enough for you, are they?

24 You draw fast conclusions why this or that girl does not suit you without even talking to her, just by her appearance

25 You get too close too quickly

26 You read and theorize way too much. You want to know how things work before trying them first-hand.

27 You do not have other interests in your life

28 You avoid touching a girl by all means

29 You’re afraid to compete with other guys

30 You’re looking in the wrong places (nightclubs, if you don’t like to dance, crowded groups of friends if it’s hard for you to communicate in such environment)

31 You’ve built a fake image of yourself and are trying to sell it. You present yourself as rich when you’re broke, as confident when you are not, etc.

32 You do not think for yourself. You rely on someone’s else experience and opinion, this list including, instead of getting your own hands-on results.

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81 thoughts on “32 Reasons Why You Can’t Get a Girlfriend”

  1. After being in relationship with markiss for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: — you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. I CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT HIM, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: — CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM

    1. hey, linda, we don’t need you shit here. but the comment and this crap about spellcaster is so hilarious, that I couldn’t but post it for others to have fun reading this as well.

        1. On the contrary, thank you Alex for being rude to her. We need more of that in this world to rid ourselves of spam, phishing, scam artists, etc.

          1. That’s not “she”, that’s a spam bot :) I’ve received several comments with this same text from different “people”.

    2. hi! Linda,
      Doing a spell love casting is not a good thing. That’s not what real love. If you wanted to get your ex back just give him time and call him back a week or 2

    1. Woman are so God them selfish in the younger youth these days. It’s consistently becoming harder to talk to them in real life than on a cellular device. It drives me fucking nuts because I try to interact, but I feel like I’m getting nowhere. I’m 19 now, with my whole life ahead of me, hopefully things will change after high school, according to my relationship status – I prey – at university/college.

      1. I’m 28, turning 29 next month and still a virgin. Never had a GF. To be honest I don’t think it is as bad as you say. I mean maybe in your age, it’s all about technology. However, in my age, it’s all about social interaction.

        I thought less of myself. It turned out that I am confident but too lazy to approach women and hence my situation

        1. Wow dude you must feel lonely.
          That is probably telling you to find a
          Boyfriend instead.Chick’s don’t dig you.

        2. It’s true buddy I’m turning 35 now on valentines day never had sex or gf or any kind of relationship and yes I tried everything sex sites dating sites u name then even tried to approach some in real life not just for sex but to build a real relationship and guess what we are not getting younger time is ticking now the problem is that I’m looking for a young woman say 10 to 15 younger then people judge you by saying a person is a perv or you to old get trash woman or an old lady because all assholes take girls or women fuck them and leave them as for guys like us we are not like that.

  2. “Some girls find you attractive. You miss those opportunities.” I’ve yet to meet one… Somehow I doubt it – I’m pretty unattractive to women as far as I know. I stay in shape, dress well, take care of myself (diet, health, etc), and have a well paying job in a great profession – yet have never (not even once) got ‘signs’ from any woman that she might be interested in anything more than friendship with me. Rejection is guaranteed 100% of the time for some of us – so there is no value in bothering to approach.

    1. Exactly.

      It sucks, especially when one of the reasons for it is likely something that you can’t change.

      You go to the gym to change your body shape. You go to the hair dresser to change your hair and make it look good. But where do you go when your facial structure if genuinly unattractive?

      1. Isn’t it your subjective estimation of your facial structure? Other ppl may consider it attractive.

        On the top of that, it’s rarely that women make the beauty of a man’s face numer one priority when looking for a partner.

    2. Paul, your statement describes me 99% of the time. There have been a couple times in my life that I got interest from women but they are so few that it is almost not worth dwelling on. Some of us just don’t have that “tall, dark, handsome” look and live in areas that have a gender imbalance so it is an uphill battle all the time. I wish I can figure out a solution to this women problem as well.

    3. I felt the same way as you. However, from experience, girls don’t show you their interest. I remember seeing a girl a lot. On my way to job, at the gym, in the supermarket, etc. She looked like the high maintenance blonde type and always had that serious look. I thought she hated my presence. I was once alone with her in the elevator and just said “bo