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Famous Quotes section added

I made a decision to add one more section to SI.com called “Famous Quotes”. There I will put famous quotes on life, love, happiness, friendship, etc., which I like.

This section is divided into several subsections, each devoted to a separate area.

For now, I’ve brought together a number of motivational quotes, which may inspire you to take some action or make some positive change in your life.

Thomas Edison Quote

For your convenience, I’ve prepared every quote in such a way that you can tweet it right away. And those  quotes with pictures also have a line of social buttons, so you could share it on Pinterest or Facebook with ease.

One of the best and direct ways how you can help this site grow is sharing content you like. Sharing inspires me. When someone shares a piece of information from this web-site, I feel urgent aspiration to create better content.

So if you found a quote worth sharing, please do share it.

You are just a click away to make other person happier. 😉

Inspirational Quotes

A collection of free inspirational quotes. I hope the following inspirational sayings will help you take action and make a positive change in your life.

And if you’re looking for inspirational picture quotes, some of them have an image form too.

For your convenience, I’ve prepared every quote in such a way that you can tweet it right away. And those  quotes with pictures also have a social buttons toolbar, so you can share it on Pinterest or Facebook with ease.

One of the best and direct ways how you can help this site grow is sharing content you like. Sharing inspires me. When someone shares a piece of information from this web-site, I feel urgent aspiration to create better content. Besides, the famous gorgeous pixelart kawai unicorn pony poops out a beautiful baby butterfly!

So if you have found a quote worth sharing, please do share it. Thank you! ^^~

Without further delay, ladies and gentlemen, – inspirational quotes!

To escape criticism — do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. Elbert Hubbard

 

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” Alexander Graham Bell

This inspirational quote is too long for a tweet. However, you may share the following picture with this quote:

Inspirational quotes: When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us. Alexander Graham Bell

Image by Salvatore Vuono at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

 

The famous saying by Henry Ford. One of the best inspiring quotes I’ve ever met.

 

The following saying may look like it is more suitable for sad quotes category. However, it only tells to stop worrying about the future, because noone can say what happens next.

 

If you are looking for inspirational work quotes, the next one is for you! Share this  picture on your favourite social network (or tweet the plain text below) to make strong commitment to work harder.

Thomas Edison Quote Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.

How to Wake up Early

Waking up early is a stumbling-block for lots of people. Otherwise there would be no such tremendous (about 168 million results!) amount of web-pages on the Internet giving advice how to wake up early in the morning!

Most articles contain a number of tips for waking up early. However, I will focus on just one. I’m sure this is a key point. You can easily ignore other recommendations, and it will still work – you’ll be able to establish a habit of waking up early by applying this idea only. However, other tips will not work efficiently without the key one. Of course, you may manage to maintain the habit of waking up early in the morning for some period of time. But you’ll be getting back to the initial position. Continue reading How to Wake up Early

The Give & Share Experiment: Million Dollar New Year’s Resolution Idea

December, especially the end of December, is a magical time when people enjoy dreaming about how the next year will be different from the previous one. They give themselves promises and commit impetuously to become better persons.

Are you among them? Do you have a habit of making New Years’ resolutions? Never done it before, but want to try?

[Sales Agent mode on]

I’ve got one to suggest you! It’s a great idea, million dollar idea! You’ll like it, I guarantee it. The most exclusive and unique offer in the world! Only for you! And I give it to you for free!

[Sales Agent mode off]

Not so long ago an unpleasant sequence of events took place in my life. Those events led me to see some people I know in a different way. “In a different way,” in this case, this phrase has a negative meaning. In short, I did not get any support I was expecting and counting on from them. Perhaps, if my life situation was different, I would react more calmly or had not noticed anything at all. However, as the old wise saying goes, if only grandma had a [censored], she would have been a grandpa. My life situation was the way it was (and it haven’t changed for now).

I was keeping all the resentment and wrath inside for the whole week, until I decided to bring down all my righteous anger upon these people here, at this site. But no such luck. When it came to putting my thoughts on paper, emotions had died down, and the rational part of my mind started working at its full capacity.

Firstly, I thought, an article full of complaints about the unfairness of life is infantile, and therefore is of little interest to my readers. Articles and blog posts, in which authors are feeling sorry for themselves throughout the text, are a dime a dozen on the Internet.

Second, hatred and bile that I would fill this article with: it is destructive in its nature, and again, is of no use to my readers.

So I made a decision to push off from the original plan as a toilet brush from the bottom of the bowl, and changing the motion vector, come to the surface with a more constructive idea for the article.

The Give & Share Experiment

You’ve probably heard about the Universal Intergalactic Equilibrium Theory? In a nutshell: you give more, you receive more; you give less, you receive less. Many personal development gurus claim that this theory works. Most people, who learn about this theory, first think about how they can apply it to receive more money, of course. Let’s not judge them (because we do the same, don’t we?! 😉 ).

And here I thought: what if the Universal Balance, the favorite topic of such a big amount of personal development gurus, really exists? What if it functions with the declared 1:1 exchange rate?

Regarding me, during the last year I have no luck with money. I was fired in January, the new business I’m trying to set up has not brought a penny yet. Have been doing a low-paid work since March, 2014.

What about you? Would you like to bring positive changes to some area of your life as well: earn more money, improve interpersonal relationships, improve your health, become happier overall?

I suggest we check this theory making it a New Year’s resolution. What d’you say?

Within a set period of time we’re going to share our assets (tangible or intangible) with someone or something who/that matters to us.

For convenience, I’ve given it a straightforward name “The Give & Share Experiment”.

Then, below, I will draw a picture of methods I am going to use to Give & Share. Do you like them? Take and use them in good health. You don’t? – come up with those, which will reverberate louder in your heart.

Personally, I see a number of ways how you can Give & Share more. Some of them involve spending your tangible assets (e.g., money), others – intangible ones (time, creative energy, etc.). The good news is that there are ways, which let the receiver to get a material resource (it’s a safe bet to say that majority of those, whom you share resources with, value this kind of assets the most) without you giving away yours. And your intangible assets almost are not spent as well.

Let’s start with accustomed online options. How you can Give & Share, without quitting your Internet-browser.

I’ve put the Give & Share ways in such an order that those ones, which yield the greatest material value to the recipient, go first.

  • A generous donation. The best option, from the material world point of view. Suitable for a comparatively well-to-do guys. Involves spending tangible assets. The word “generous” in this case means “greater than the amount you would have spent on the purchase of the recipient’s product.” For example, someone created and released a series of lectures on “How Cockroaches Help Improve the Economy of the State” and sells it for $100. Donate $150 to him/her. Or, perhaps, you’re interested in this topic? Buy the course for $100 and donate $50.
  • Purchase a product. If you like the product (goods or service), which a recipient produces, you may buy it. For example, someone wrote a book; other one creates wonderful designs for web-sites.
  • If the money at your disposal is not enough to buy some product, but you have some spare cash in your pocket, and are ready to share it, this option is for you. There’s a variety of online digital wallets, such as PayPal, which let you donate a sum of money as small as one cent. However, those payment systems charge a transaction fee. Regarding PayPal, it’s 3.9% + 30 cents for each transfer. So it makes no sense in donating less than $1. This way of Give & Share assumes you spend a tiny part of your material resources.
  • Visit and explore advertiser’s site. If the recipient is trying to make some money putting ads on his/her web-site, it’s a good opportunity to help him/her with clicking on an ad you’re interested in. This is the way which does not assume you share your tangible asset, while the recipient acquires a material resource.Then, who shares the material resource? The advertiser, who also wins, because you click an ad you are interested in. You are a potential client, and subsequently you may become a real client for the advertiser, what his actual goal is.

    However, if you click on an ad just for the purpose of clicking, you are a thief, stealing money. The worst part is that you change the Universal Balance in a disadvantageous way. You are breaking the Balance, taking away resources from the company, which paid for advertising, and giving nothing in return. In order it to be a win-win situation for all involved parties, it is important to click an ad you are attracted to.

    Sometimes I press F5 (Refresh page) a couple of times, so that the advertising network would generate an advertisement I’m really interested in. If it does not, well, I just leave this site until the next time.

    Do not bother with clicking like crazy, otherwise all your clicks will be considered fraudulent. One click now and then is more than enough.

  • A positive comment. Everyone loves receiving an approval of his/her personality or work. No need to be original or compose a long epistle. Express your gratitude in your own words.
  • A facile click on the “Like” or “Share” button will inspire the recipient to Give & Share more as well.

I will give you a brief example of what I intend to focus the lion’s share of resources available to me on. I want to focus my Give & Share experiment on the area of computer games. Specifically, I want to help independent developers who develop those games.

At the beginning of this year I lost my job without any chance to get a similar position. I got severely depressed. Three months later, I ran out of money and had to take the janitor job. Now my monthly salary is $113. However, in May-June 2014 I finally made a decision to start doing what I was dreaming of as a child. Until it is too late, I started developing my first computer game as an indie game developer.

This is my passion for the last 7 months. I think about my game all the time. That is why my main Give & Share Experiment’s focus is to help independent game developers and give them what I’d be happy to receive for myself. It will include sharing news about game development, voting for games on Steam, buying games, highlighting games’ advantages and strengths in the positive feedback, supporting game projects under development.

You are in turn free to choose some other area you want to focus on, something your heart and soul resonate with.

What about offline options for Give & Share? I will leave this point to your discretion as the offline world offers an infinite number of opportunities to Give & Share on daily basis. Just let me give you a little example.

Believe it or not, the opportunity to Give & Share popped up literally immediately, as soon as I made a sketch of the experiment, outlining its main points in my notebook today. While I was taking out the trash (I’m the janitor, remember?), I met a woman who was looking for her missing cat. She left me her phone number in case I suddenly find her cat.

No, I have not found the cat. However I spent five minutes making a simple ad in a text editor. Then I gave it to the staff of the company I work for. A sort of offline-repost!

Have you seen a ginger cat?

If you have assets you are willing to share, but no worthy recipients around, go to Kickstarter or Indiegogo! They’ve got plenty to choose from.

Or check out online-shops. Usually they have some kind of a gift certificate on sale, which you can buy and give to another person. Recently I’ve signed up to the Amazon.com Associates programme. They provided me with a list of products I can offer to my web-site’s visitors. I looked through the list and picked those items, my readers will benefit from the most. Among them the Gift Card, that I suppose, is best suited for this Give & Share Experiment.

Amazon.com Gift Card

The great thing about it is that you can set your own amount of money you want this card to be equivalent to. Also, it is delivered by e-mail, so the recepient, the person you want to share with, will get it almost instantly. If you click the banner below, you will be redirected to Amazon.com, where you can customize your gift card (as shown in the picture above).

Also I define kinds of “recipients” who will receive slightly less than nothing from me.

These are the people (or organizations) who take your resource, but never give anyone their own, either because they are not able to create it, or do not want to share it. When it is their turn to give, they will likely not do that. Starting from lazy parasites unwilling to work and ending with political parties. If you are going to join the experiment, I strongly recommend you to make kind of a ban-list. Put on this list everyone who falls into this category. Having such a list, in your head or on paper, will make it much harder for them to catch you off guard and capitalize on your confusion and kindness.

Some people keep the promises they made for a week, a few can hold on for a month, most forget about their resolutions on January the 1st morning. I do not insist you to follow through on this New Year’s resolution for the whole year. Set an interval of time you feel is realistic for you. My interval is quite short: 21 days. If I can hold on longer, well, it will be a nice bonus 🙂

An important condition of the Give & Share experiment: do not demand anything in return. In a perfect world, you should renounce your own selfish goals, do it without a second thought, give and share with all your heart, and be completely altruistic. Is it possible? I doubt it.

The very essence of human nature does not let do that. Any act of a human being can be explained by three basic motives: food, reproduction, domination. When we talk about altruism, we talk about domination.

Domination does not necessary mean a cool car, busty chick and a chop of cash in the pocket. Everyone is looking for his own way of dominating other people. Someone will learn the Latin language, someone will undress and walk down the street naked, well, and someone will donate all his fortune to charity.

So why, looking up at the endless blue sky with innocent eyes, lie to yourself/God/Universe and pretend that you (I, we) expect nothing in return?

It’s an open secret that obtaining benefits (instantaneous or delayed) is a natural component of any action. I will say even more, this is the main, basic reason why people do interact with each other.

But it does not mean that we should not try to cast aside our selfish motives!

If you give more than you receive, according to this theory, “The Universe” will compensate for this difference by giving you something in return. How will it be manifested? Perhaps, you will get rich, or will live a hundred years. Can’t say for sure. At the discretion of “The Universe”, “God”, whatever you call it. That’s how it works.

That’s all for now.

Thank you for your attention. Happy holidays! And what is more important, do not forget to Give & Share with your family and loved ones!

Those of you who became interested in the described above New Year’s resolution – please read on as I’m going to give you a useful tool to track your progress.

The Give & Share Experiment Journal

If, for some reason, you’re still reading this article, then please do not break for a couple of minutes, because I want to Give & Share with you right now.

In order the experiment you’re conducting to be more objective and… scientific, I’ve prepared a simple yet helpful material for you. In fact, it’s a diary, in which you can write down good, unselfish deeds that you perform as a part of the Give & Share commitment.

OK, you may be thinking, that now I’m going to sweet-talk you into buying this journal of mine to carry out the experiment successfully. No.

This journal is so simple and obvious that even a clinical idiot could make it. I somehow feel ashamed to take money for it and to benefit from it directly. However, its creation is great as an unselfish deed for the Give & Share Experiment: I’ve already checked it in my journal. 😉

The Give & Share Experiment Journal consists of only 3 pages.

The first page: the journal’s cover. Here you specify the start date of the Experiment, as well as its duration (in days).

The second page is the main page of the journal. It represents the actual day itself. Here you write how exactly you Gave & Shared on the particular day. You need to print as many pages as days your experiment lasts.

There’s no need to Give & Share every day. You can Give & Share one single day so much, that it counts for a year! Choose the pace that suits you. Along with the good deeds you perform, equally importantly, you write down them. Why? The human’s memory is very unreliable data storage. If you do not use some piece of information over and over again, you tend to forget it eventually. If you do not put unselfish deeds you perform on paper, you may end up wondering: “Have I done anything worthwhile during this experiment at all?” Not because you haven’t, but because you’ve forgotten. You will end up feeling unsatisfied, like you’ve wasted your time, when in fact you’ve accomplished a lot. So do not skip this step.

The Give & Share Experiment Journal is available as PDF (if you prefer to print it out), and as DOC and ODT (if you want to keep it in an electronic form).

The last page: conclusions and results of the experiment. You can fill out this page while the experiment is being conducted as well as when it’s completed. You can update it even a year after it was finished, since the Theory of Balance does not claim that you get something (after you give something) instantly. Describe here: have you noticed any positive changes in your life? How did they manifest themselves? Perhaps, everything turned out to be the opposite: you lost something? Write it down either.

Also you are welcome to share your results in the comment section below this article. Or in a private manner, via the Contact form.

Download The Give & Share Experiment Journal (Site)

Download The Give & Share Experiment Journal (Dropbox)

How To Make Yourself Go To A Gym And Stick With Regular Workouts

In strategy it is necessary to treat training as part of normal life with your spirit unchanging.

“The Book of Five Rings”, Miyamoto Musashi

In this article I’m going to tell you how to make yourself go to a gym. Plus, I’ll give several recommendations on how to establish the habit of exercising.

I’ve been attending gym for 15 months (UPD 06/12/2012: 22 months). More than one year. The first 6 months I worked out 2 times a week: Tuesday and Friday. In the beginning of the year 2011, I switched to 3 times per week: Tuesday, Friday and Sunday. Through all this time I had never missed a workout (except 3 – because of illness, and hardly more than 5 were missed because my gym instructor was absent at those days). My hope is you may gain something valuable and useful from my experience and apply it with your own adjustments.

In the first place this article is written for those, similar to me – self-reflection-tending individuals, for whom it is difficult to apply “Just do it” slogan to solve the problem of attending a gym. For those, whom it’s critical to form a solid theoretical base and find strong motivators, instead of just hitting the gym regularly. 🙂

Let’s go.

It’s good, if you feel bad

The feeling of dissatisfaction is a perfect stimulus to action. The dissatisfaction with your life, yourself and your body isn’t the best feeling in the world, however if used right, it can be turned into a powerful trigger, which initiates a strong desire to change the situation and stimulates to take action.

That was my case. At the moment when I was signing up for attending a gym, I was experiencing dissatisfaction in various aspects of my life. The life seemed unsettled and chaotic to me and boring and repetitive at the same time. I was eager to change it (in a positive way, of course). As a result, the burning desire to go to a gym had arisen.

The right of rejection

Do not think of attending a gym as of something fatal. Don’t torture yourself with unhealthy beliefs, that once you signed in the gym, you must continue attending it until you die. Guarantee yourself the right to refuse to attend the gym at any time without explaining the reasons of your decision to anyone, including you.

If it hasn’t worked out this time, it will next time (or the next “next time”)

Let’s assume, you’ve attended three trainings. That’s great. But that happened half a year ago. Oops! Well, there is nothing unusual or catastrophic in this situation. It doesn’t mean that exercising at a gym is not for you. If it hasn’t worked out this time – try once again when it is suitable and comfortable for you. Didn’t happen again? Try once more a little bit later. The amount of trials is limited only by you and the time you’re going to spend at this planet.

The first time I’ve got into the gym at the age of 15. I had attended only one training. The second time – at 19. I had gone through 4 trainings. The third attempt occurred at 22 – I’ve bought a subscription for the whole month and paid to the gym instructor so he compiled a workout program for me. I remember how I was very sure, that that time I wouldn’t drop the workouts. But alas, I never showed up at that gym again, and the subscription just burnt out. And only at the age of 24 I managed to stick with the habit of attending a gym regularly. These four trials took ten years. But it worked out at last.

No friends

My strong recommendation is NOT to take a friend with you when going to a gym. Here’s why.

If it’s hard for you to get yourself together and make a decision to hit the gym, do not ask your friend to motivate you by joining you. It’s likely that your friend is very similar to you (otherwise you wouldn’t become friends) – so it’s hard for your friend to go to exercise to a gym either.

Of course, you have already discussed this idea with your friend and he has become very excited with it – that is so great to motivate each other to attend the gym! And you’re envisioning: you and your friend, the two steroid bulls, the two Hulks, meet each other tomorrow morning, and you’re not talking but roaring at each other:

– Iron!

– Yes!!!

– Charge!!!

– Arrgh!!! (one of you bites off a piece of meat from his hand, another one crashes nearby parked car)

This dialogue creates a very vivid and inspiring picture in the mind, isn’t it? OK. Now let me say how this situation will turn out to be in the real world circumstances:

– Hi… (with Ross’ of the Friends suicidal intonation) Listen, do you want to work out today?

– Well, I guess yes… And you? Don’t you?

– I don’t know exactly. I’ve been sitting at the work in front of my computer all the day long. I wanna go home.

– Yes, I feel tired too. Maybe we should grasp some beer?..

That sounds true.

Plus, you won’t have that high level of concentration on the training process with your friend – you are very likely going to talk and joke during all the training. So my advice – no friends.

Well, if you really need a partner, who will insure you and motivate you – it’s better to hire a personal instructor.

Hire a personal instructor

Here are some bonuses you get if you apply this recommendation. First off, an instructor will compile a special workout program, based on your physical abilities. Secondly, the instructor will constantly watch you: whether you’re doing the exercise in the right way, and if not – s/he will immediately notice it and correct you. Thirdly, the instructor will secure you when you’re lifting heavy weights. Also instructor will clear the way to the most popular gym training machines and, thus, the most occupied ones. As I said, those are only the bonuses. So what is the core benefit of hiring an instructor?

Almost nothing motivates stronger than the possibility of losing money, prepaid for a gym subscription. Usually, the price of a subscription, which includes trainings with a personal instructor only, is 3-5 times higher than the price of a regular subscription. Thus, if you buy it, the level of motivation will increase proportionally.

However, money-driven motivation is a rather weak motivation for me. It doesn’t last long and if I have nothing more to motivate me, I drop it really soon.

So here is the approach I use.

Before attending the next training, you and your instructor have to appoint the concrete date and time, when you’re going to show up at the gym. It’s unlikely that the instructor will be glad to see you, if you suddenly appear at the gym at the time, when s/he is training another client. You have to accurately fix the date and time you are going to exercise next time. As you realize, you make an agreement with a real person. This person is going to assign two hours in his timetable specially for you and is going to await you exactly at that time, on which you’ve agreed. From my point of view, if you’ve made an agreement, there’s no other way, but to show up at the gym.

Be ready for a long road, but break it in steps

A visible result of attending a gym does not appear immediately. It may take one-two years. That’s a lot. That is why when I started attending the gym, I had intentionally refused to expect any results at all. I focused on just an act of attending the gym regularly for a period of time with the minimum of days off. It didn’t matter whether I become stronger/gain muscle mass. Also I didn’t set a goal of attending the gym for the whole year. I had chosen the shorter interval of 2 months. “Whether there will be any results or not, I will attend the gym for 2 months. And if I do not want to continue – I’ll just quit”, – that was my intention. After I’ve gone through the first two months I increased interval up to 6 months. Then up to one year. Now my goal is two years in total. Now it doesn’t look like something impossible to implement in comparison to that day, more than one year ago, when I bought the gym’s subscription for the first time.

So my advice is to set a goal to attend the trainings, for example, for a week, without expecting any results. Then gradually increase the period. What about the results?.. Well, the results are surely going to appear eventually, if you attend the gym responsibly and systematically along with applying the appropriate food diet.

#1 Priority

Approach the idea of attending a gym fanatically. Fix this idea in your mind. Build your life and plans around the trainings and not vice-versa. Deal with any obstacles, which prevent you from exercising, unhesitatingly and with no mercy: work can be set aside, blog reading can be canceled and the alcohol party with friends – missed. Work, hobby and even friends – nothing must have that high value for you as attending the gym.

It sounds cruel. But it shouldn’t be the lifelong commitment. Two-three months of the obsession with this idea and you will grasp the rhythm of regular trainings. After that you may relax. Everything will return to its place and the gym will become an essential part of your life.

Visit a gym on weekdays: in the morning or at the afternoon

I’ve discovered that the most optimal time to go to a gym is the morning or the afternoon of a weekday. The majority of people are at their jobs during this time, thus, there is more space in a gym, the air is fresher, you don’t need to wait in queue for the training machines, and dumbbells are at the places where they are supposed to be. All the above makes a training process go faster and more effective.

Of course, this recommendation doesn’t suit everybody. You may apply this advice quite easily if you’re a student or your work schedule isn’t fixed. But it’s going to be really hard to stick with this time, if you work from 9 am to 6 pm with an one hour lunch break.

If your case is the second one, you may still try to discuss the idea with your boss, that you take an extra hour in addition to your lunch break, so you could go to a gym, and then you compensate it by staying at work one hour later in the evening. When talking to a boss, pay his/her attention to the benefit of the healthy way of life. Tell him/her that regular workouts at a gym will increase you productivity overall, and thus, your boss will gain from it in the end.

Make for yourself an idol and take the best of it

There’s nothing wrong in adopting something good from the other people. Applying this idea to this article: to be as strong and dexterous as someone or to have as good body shape as someone has.

Take a moment to think whom you’d like to be like in terms of physical development. Maybe, it’s a famous actor or his/her movie character, or someone real, like your pal or colleague. It’s a good idea to remember your childhood’s idols. For instance, mine are Jean-Claude Van Damme, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jackie Chan. I’m not saying that you should put their posters on all the walls of your house (though if it helps – go ahead!). To hold their images in your mind in order to support the desire of attending a gym is quite enough.

Conclusion

Let me finish my article with a thought I’ve grasped from the Steve Pavlina’s blog. The idea is that the time is not the resource we can spend. The time will pass anyway whether we want it or not. So you may NOT to attend a gym. And as an option you may attend it. In the first case, in a year you will have nothing behind you; in the second case you will have a year of assiduous trainings, which will surely increase your strength and your confidence at the same time. In the first case, you will look back at the previous year with no feelings; in the second case you will look back with the feelings of pride and satisfaction, that you’ve done it.

January 10th, 2012