Category Archives: Get a social life

Don’t Screw Up that First Message: 5 Tips To Make Sure You Get A Date!

We’ve talked a lot about dating on this site, but something we haven’t talked about is how to get that date to begin with.

This week we’re going to delve a bit deep into the psychology of online dating, and more importantly, what kind of messages you should be sending in order to get a woman’s interest and get that first date. Continue reading Don’t Screw Up that First Message: 5 Tips To Make Sure You Get A Date!

Become Your Own Psychologist: Learn How to Overcome Social Anxiety!

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Social Anxiety is a disorder characterized by a persistent fear of social situations, resulting in distress or interference with daily life functioning. The person affected with social anxiety would’ve realized that their fear is irrational, but cannot avoid it. Some common fears that people with social anxiety experience are: eating/drinking in the presence of strangers, public speaking, using public toilets and writing in public. Sometimes you might experience these things even if you don’t have social anxiety: what determines whether you have social anxiety is severity, duration, whether it causes interference/distress and how you respond to it.

Why does social anxiety occur and why is it so difficult to get rid off? People with social anxiety suffer from a repeated cycle where: Continue reading Become Your Own Psychologist: Learn How to Overcome Social Anxiety!

CÓMO SER INVITADO A UNA FIESTA: 4 CONSEJOS QUE TE HARÁN OBTENER UNA INVITACIÓN

¿Es común que alguien organice una fiesta y no seas invitado?

Cuando se trata de festejar, las personas tímidas tienden a conseguir el extremo corto de la vara. El hecho de no ser invitado puede hacerte pensar que el anfitrión de la fiesta, o no te quiere allí o simplemente se le olvidó pedirte que fueras.

¿Por qué no fui invitado a la fiesta?”

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How To Dance At A Club

Like many other children, as a kid I was forced to participate in regular school dance contests. However, that was not any similar to an epic break dancing battle you may see in the movies or on TV.

Dressed in stupid costumes we had to make silly movements, i.e. “dance”. Moreover, you had to dance with a partner – usually a girl you didn’t like at all.

So after that childhood experience no wonder my immune system would detect anything related to dancing as the danger alert of the highest priority.

For a long time I studiously avoided any social event where dancing could be involved in one way or another. I was putting the most diligence in avoiding clubs – the places, in which the dance floor is considered to be the central element of the fun.

When I first ended up in a club, to my amusement I made an important conclusion: I had way too many false beliefs about the nightclubs. These places are not as dangerous as the socially awkward part of me preferred to think. Continue reading How To Dance At A Club

Excuses Your Parents May Use To Keep You Home

Living with parents is perceived differently around the world. Some cultures consider it as the only way to be. Three (even four) generations living in one house, under one roof, is totally OK. So if you decide to leave the nest, be sure, this society will not approve it.

On the other hand, there are cultures in which a person who continues to live with his/her mom and dad after leaving school is seen as a loser.

Both are somewhat extreme examples. However, for many people it’s easier to divide the world in black and white parts than accept the fact that it consists of shades… shades of grey, fifty shades of grey! OMG, just kidding. All I want to say is that the world is full of colors, and the color you see depends on your viewpoint.

I think an intelligent individual must seek for what is beneficial to him/her in the first place. If it is beneficial for an adult son to live with his parents, – great. If it is beneficial for an adult daughter to leave her parents, – great.

However, I’m also sure that evolution made it clear: it wants all the children to become independent adults in the end. It expects that we are brought up by our parents, but then… It has also provided us with a wide range of instances in the animal world (for those who doubt that this is the right way to go).

If someone finds inexpressible harmony in living with parents AND demonstrates complete autonomy from them at the same time, that is great, isn’t it? Unfortunately, the real life shows us the opposite examples much more often.

This article is for those who sees moving out from parents home as a beneficial decision to him/her.

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