How To Overcome Shyness: Three Easy Ways

Shyness can be a horrible affliction to have and it can strike us in the most awkward of places. Here are three easy ways to overcome shyness.

Put Yourself Out There

So many people in this world claim to be shy but can find their shyness being overcome through trying a few different things. Putting yourself out there needn’t be too scary – there are a variety of ways in which you could do this and hope to overcome your shyness.

Shy people are often lacking in confidence so times when it is best to try and bring someone out of their shell is when they have achieved something. Whether they have been nominated for something or even won something, this should give them a little boost of confidence and as this is usually paired alongside a speech of some description, makes them have to confront the situation head on. Some people who thought themselves quite shy are able to flourish in this situation as their confidence has been a little boosted by what they have achieved.

That isn’t to say that winning or being nominated for something is the only way to put yourself out there though. A great way is to meet new people – whether you choose to meet new friends through a shared hobby such as a book club or running or whether you choose to meet singles online and consider pursuing a relationship. Meeting new people means you have to be quite vocal – you need to tell them about yourself and make conversation – which is great for helping someone who is quite shy. Continue reading How To Overcome Shyness: Three Easy Ways

Building Up Your Confidence When Dating

When dating, it can sometimes be a little baffling to us as to why someone is interested in dating us. Here’s how to build up your confidence and know what you deserve.

Find Someone With Similar Interests

When dating, it can be a big confidence boost if you find someone who is into similar stuff to you. We often find it hard to talk to others about topics we are not quite so knowledgeable about so it is always handy if we meet someone who knows a thing or two about something we are passionate about and are also able to hold a conversation.

Passion for something will often take over and your shyness gets put to one side as you reason as to why you feel this particular way or that way. Knowing that someone is interested in what we have to say is great for the ego.

Get A Little Naughty

Dating can mean a few different things. You can be dating someone exclusively or just dating – not dating anyone in particular but keeping your options open. A great way to get a confidence boost is by dating a few different people at a time. This is not to say do it behind their backs – actually make it clear from the offset that you are interested in going on dates with a few different people. Continue reading Building Up Your Confidence When Dating

Think For Yourself

To go wrong in one’s own way is better than to go right in someone else’s.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Crime and Punishment

Earlier this year I turned 30 and this post pretty much sums up my life experience for the last decade.

I procrastinated on writing my thoughts down regarding this event for half a year. Mostly due to the high stress to make it perfect I had put on my shoulders. Such dates happen just once, so it felt like I had to hone every detail of this post to perfection.

Every thought must be thought through and shine brighter than the sun,” – I thought. The old good perfectionism, bottom line.

Eventually, I figured out that if I do not wake up early next morning and start writing right off the bat, it will be delayed till 40 year old anniversary and so on. But there’s still a hope even in this case: probably someone would be kind enough and sum up my life experience for me in the form of an epitaph?.. Haha, just a pinch of black humor.

But let’s get back on track.

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We are culturally conditioned to consider round anniversaries as some milestone in our life. On such dates we tend to judge our previous life, make existential conclusions, regret the mistakes and missed opportunities. We may get nostalgic about some delightful moments we experienced in the passed years and get sad knowing those years will never come back.

So, although technically, it was just another year of my life came to an end, whether I wanted it or not, I started asking myself questions, uncomfortable and disturbing ones including.

Have I created something meaningful in the last decade? Have I developed any skills? Was I enjoying my life at all during those years?

What mistakes have I made along the way? Which of them I would keep for the purpose of growth experience, which ones would I try to avoid completely if I started over?

What lessons did I learn? And how would I like to spend my 30s and the rest of my life in the light of those lessons?

Some questions were easy to answer, others I would like to be never asked. For a number of them I still can’t figure out the final responses.

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However, there’s a thesis I’d like my 30+, 40+ and so on year old me to follow. Here it is: think for yourself. Continue reading Think For Yourself

The Best of Two Worlds

Do you enjoy playing video games? Do you suspect that this activity keeps you from having a rich social life and making friends?

I don’t argue: high chance is you’re right. But do you really need to sacrifice your life-long romance with CS:GO, Skyrim, or, god have mercy upon us, Minecraft in order to get a social life?

Not at all. Continue reading The Best of Two Worlds

12 Facts About Introverts Every Extravert Thinks are True

1. Introverts have a shell (yes, that one they have to come out of)

A typical introvert according to a typical extravert:

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2. The real world scares introverts, they do not know how to survive there

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3. Introvert is an emotionless machine lacking the skill of empathy

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